Dating someone who rejected you
And a few days after that, he said he wouldn’t be able to make it until April, and actually, this wasn’t going to work and he couldn’t do it anymore. Six weeks later, I met a guy I through Tinder, which so rarely happens it’s like the unicorn of dating experiences.Everything was going great until we had sex and he ghosted me. Soon after, a really cute guy from San Francisco messaged me on Tinder (we'd matched when I was in his area for a wedding).That escalated to texting every day, phone dates, and him bringing up visiting me over Valentine's Day weekend (he was in the Midwest, I'm in New York City).
There are some people who get rejected left and right and can continue living as if nothing happened. Unfortunately, not all of us are so impervious to rejection.
It’s exhausting and depressing to constantly take everything so personally.
For as long as I’ve been dating, I’ve been drawn to emotionally unavailable guys.
I’ve primarily been single, mostly as an attempt to protect myself from this kind of pain, and the relationships that I have had have been chaotic and pretty excruciating.
Because I’ve felt repeatedly hurt and rejected so many times by men who weren’t capable of being in healthy, nurturing relationships, I’ve internalized the (untrue) belief that love is something that’s for other people, but won’t ever work out for me.